Comments on: “The L Word” & Equality in Lesbian Relationships http://queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/ We're here, We're queer, and We're not going Shopping without Coupons Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:23:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Queercents » Sleeping With Money: Out Earning Your Partner http://queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/comment-page-1/#comment-50400 Queercents » Sleeping With Money: Out Earning Your Partner Fri, 06 Jul 2007 00:25:55 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/#comment-50400 [...] In a previous post, I likened my first partner to Helena, the wealthy lesbian socialite from The L Word. Partner #1 was much nicer than Helena (and nowhere near as good looking) but over time I witnessed a huge shift in power. The shift was subtle at first. I was taken by the gifts, the expensive dinners, and nice vacations. But then all of a sudden I found myself in a relationship where she held the power and control. [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-50400">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] In a previous post, I likened my first partner to Helena, the wealthy lesbian socialite from The L Word. Partner #1 was much nicer than Helena (and nowhere near as good looking) but over time I witnessed a huge shift in power. The shift was subtle at first. I was taken by the gifts, the expensive dinners, and nice vacations. But then all of a sudden I found myself in a relationship where she held the power and control. [...]

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]]> By: Queercents » Helena, The L Word, and The M Word http://queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/comment-page-1/#comment-11363 Queercents » Helena, The L Word, and The M Word Wed, 10 Jan 2007 14:10:41 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/#comment-11363 [...] AfterEllen.com explains, "Since we first met her in Season 2, we've seen Helena transform from a rich bitch who casually cut Bette's funding and dated her ex to a more human, rich bitch friend who paid for Shane's wedding." [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-11363">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] AfterEllen.com explains, “Since we first met her in Season 2, we’ve seen Helena transform from a rich bitch who casually cut Bette’s funding and dated her ex to a more human, rich bitch friend who paid for Shane’s wedding.” [...]

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]]> By: ~Dawn http://queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/comment-page-1/#comment-703 ~Dawn Sat, 10 Jun 2006 00:43:21 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/#comment-703 My personal experience is only what I can draw on. In our home, I make more than my spouse, however I give her more of the money making decisions and she balances the check book. We still go over major decisions and I balance the checkbook on my days off, but it is primarily handled by her. She says this allows her a feeling that she is providing something financially, even though she isn't bringing in the major money, she is the one who keeps up with the bills and such. And it takes a bit of a load off of me.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-703">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> My personal experience is only what I can draw on.
In our home, I make more than my spouse, however I give her more of the money making decisions and she balances the check book. We still go over major decisions and I balance the checkbook on my days off, but it is primarily handled by her.

She says this allows her a feeling that she is providing something financially, even though she isn’t bringing in the major money, she is the one who keeps up with the bills and such. And it takes a bit of a load off of me.

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]]> By: LB http://queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/comment-page-1/#comment-701 LB Fri, 09 Jun 2006 15:18:41 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/06/08/the-l-word/#comment-701 I am in a relationship where I know that I hold the power. Mainly due to a big difference in financial means. Knowing this, I try my best to not make it an issue because I am uncomfortable with the imbalance. But the reality is that I will pay for more than she will probably throughout our entire lives together. I never want to be Helena. I see the money as a means to us both getting what we want out of life. How can I try to equalize the power in the relationship? Any suggestions anyone?<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-701">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> I am in a relationship where I know that I hold the power. Mainly due to a big difference in financial means. Knowing this, I try my best to not make it an issue because I am uncomfortable with the imbalance. But the reality is that I will pay for more than she will probably throughout our entire lives together. I never want to be Helena. I see the money as a means to us both getting what we want out of life. How can I try to equalize the power in the relationship? Any suggestions anyone?

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