Comments on: WWYD: Picking Up the Check http://queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/ We're here, We're queer, and We're not going Shopping without Coupons Thu, 18 Mar 2010 03:42:20 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Juan Carlos http://queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/comment-page-1/#comment-154213 Juan Carlos Fri, 29 Aug 2008 16:48:06 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/#comment-154213 Due to the site´s name no wonder there is no "showmanship" around ha ha just kidding! when I "win" the "dance" and the other person or persons says "OK, we´ll (I) get it next time" I answer "ok, next time we´ll go to xxxxxx" replace xxxxx with the name of the most expensive place in town it brings out a laugh and awkwarderness dissappears<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-154213">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Due to the site´s name no wonder there is no “showmanship” around ha ha

just kidding!

when I “win” the “dance” and the other person or persons says “OK, we´ll (I) get it next time” I answer “ok, next time we´ll go to xxxxxx”

replace xxxxx with the name of the most expensive place in town

it brings out a laugh and awkwarderness dissappears

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]]> By: Maxine http://queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/comment-page-1/#comment-14353 Maxine Tue, 30 Jan 2007 22:50:12 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/#comment-14353 Generally, if it's just me and a friend buying drinks or a cheapish meal, I prefer to alternate paying the tab. It makes me feel particularly cheap to be trying to split a $15 bill. Then again, you will always have the one friend whose turn never seems to come around. I used to have a friend who seemed to expect me to always pay, she'd patiently wait, making no move towards her purse when the bill came. So now, I make a point of only putting in half when the bill comes no matter how small. And if I'm making a trip to the bar for drinks, I'll always wait for her to give me cash for her order. It makes me feel like a bit of a heel for doing so but the alternative is to quietly stew in resentment. Oh well.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-14353">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Generally, if it’s just me and a friend buying drinks or a cheapish meal, I prefer to alternate paying the tab. It makes me feel particularly cheap to be trying to split a $15 bill.

Then again, you will always have the one friend whose turn never seems to come around. I used to have a friend who seemed to expect me to always pay, she’d patiently wait, making no move towards her purse when the bill came.

So now, I make a point of only putting in half when the bill comes no matter how small. And if I’m making a trip to the bar for drinks, I’ll always wait for her to give me cash for her order.

It makes me feel like a bit of a heel for doing so but the alternative is to quietly stew in resentment. Oh well.

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]]> By: Canadian http://queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/comment-page-1/#comment-11259 Canadian Tue, 09 Jan 2007 15:03:51 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/#comment-11259 Ask for separate cheques right from the get-go.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-11259">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Ask for separate cheques right from the get-go.

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]]> By: Gary Petersen http://queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/comment-page-1/#comment-6886 Gary Petersen Thu, 30 Nov 2006 20:50:58 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/#comment-6886 Though I see it happen on occasion, I find "offering to handle the gratuities" to be tacky. If someone pays the bill, don't 'ease his pain' by paying the tip. Instead, graciously accept and leave it at that. Even the "I'll get it next time" promise need not be said, just do it. Smile, and say "Thank you!"<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-6886">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Though I see it happen on occasion, I find “offering to handle the gratuities” to be tacky. If someone pays the bill, don’t ‘ease his pain’ by paying the tip. Instead, graciously accept and leave it at that. Even the “I’ll get it next time” promise need not be said, just do it. Smile, and say “Thank you!”

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]]> By: DivaJean http://queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/comment-page-1/#comment-6858 DivaJean Thu, 30 Nov 2006 15:11:04 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/#comment-6858 A funny story my sister Amy told me about picking up the check--- She was out with her friends Janie and Vonne for Janie's birthday and didn't feel well- so she went home and left them with a buy one get one coupon for the restaurant. Janie and Vonne went ahead as planned and had their dinner out. Fast forward a week later- Janie asked Amy how she uses BOGO offers. Amy advised that usually she would just split the tab with a friend so they could both get some cost savings. Then Janie revealed that Vonne had designated HERSELF as the one getting the free meal- on Janie's birthday! So basically poor Janie, on her birthday, had to buy Vonne dinner! How cheap can you get! (And I do mean cheap- not frugal. Big difference!) So it has now become our in joke when using a BOGO coupon to get dibs on being the one getting the free meal.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-6858">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> A funny story my sister Amy told me about picking up the check—

She was out with her friends Janie and Vonne for Janie’s birthday and didn’t feel well- so she went home and left them with a buy one get one coupon for the restaurant. Janie and Vonne went ahead as planned and had their dinner out.

Fast forward a week later- Janie asked Amy how she uses BOGO offers. Amy advised that usually she would just split the tab with a friend so they could both get some cost savings. Then Janie revealed that Vonne had designated HERSELF as the one getting the free meal- on Janie’s birthday! So basically poor Janie, on her birthday, had to buy Vonne dinner! How cheap can you get! (And I do mean cheap- not frugal. Big difference!)

So it has now become our in joke when using a BOGO coupon to get dibs on being the one getting the free meal.

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]]> By: Brian http://queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/comment-page-1/#comment-6790 Brian Wed, 29 Nov 2006 14:55:53 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2006/11/29/picking-up-the-check/#comment-6790 Generally with my best friends it alternates, there's the occasional back and forth, but often it all works out, someone got the drinks tab one time, I'll get the dinner tab another. That really only works when there's just the 2 of us though, adding more people causes me to ask for separate checks before we order since splitting a tab can really grate on some people's nerves especially when not everyone in the group is pulling down the same income. To quote the movie Mystery Men, "when you split the check -- the steak eater picks the pocket of the salad man." With my boyfriend as we've been dating barely 3 months, we do our best to split the check, often throwing both debit cards on the table unless one or the other had something much more expensive than the other. Except for his recent birthday weekend, then I paid. :) Though it's hard to remember to do so, more establishments are servers are much happier when you ask for separate checks ahead of the meal, than trying to sort out who owes what and handing them 8 credit cards when the bill arrives. (Some places in DC print a limit of credit cards accepted per check on the menu)<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-6790">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Generally with my best friends it alternates, there’s the occasional back and forth, but often it all works out, someone got the drinks tab one time, I’ll get the dinner tab another. That really only works when there’s just the 2 of us though, adding more people causes me to ask for separate checks before we order since splitting a tab can really grate on some people’s nerves especially when not everyone in the group is pulling down the same income. To quote the movie Mystery Men, “when you split the check — the steak eater picks the pocket of the salad man.”

With my boyfriend as we’ve been dating barely 3 months, we do our best to split the check, often throwing both debit cards on the table unless one or the other had something much more expensive than the other. Except for his recent birthday weekend, then I paid. :)

Though it’s hard to remember to do so, more establishments are servers are much happier when you ask for separate checks ahead of the meal, than trying to sort out who owes what and handing them 8 credit cards when the bill arrives. (Some places in DC print a limit of credit cards accepted per check on the menu)

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