Comments on: Sleeping With Money: Don’t Let Romance Cloud Your Financial Vision

By: Queercents » Sleeping with Money: To Merge or Not To Merge

Queercents » Sleeping with Money: To Merge or Not To Merge — Thu, 14 Jun 2007 12:23:36 +0000

[...] When we first merged lives some 15+ years ago, finances were totally separate. For many reasons including the rose colored glasses I’ve talked about, it just plain made sense to be 100% separate. Not to mention our philosophies, outlook, relationship with money, and debt/asset situations were wildly different. You might also say there was a hint of doubt (can this relationship that was only “supposed” to be a friendship really last?) as well. Well, we certainly answered the last part and longevity is not a problem. However, differing styles and financial situations remain. [...]

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By: Queercents » Sleeping With Money: Like it Or Not the In-Laws Come Too

Queercents » Sleeping With Money: Like it Or Not the In-Laws Come Too — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 12:20:39 +0000

[...] In the Sleeping with Money series we talk about all the lessons we’ve learned from our relationships. Well, sometimes our lessons come once removed. In my previous post on this topic I talked about the rose colored glasses that come at the start of a relationship. While you can eventually iron things out within your relationship, one fact remains. You will always be impacted by the in-laws’ habits and philosophies on money. [...]

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By: Nina

Nina — Sun, 18 Mar 2007 19:19:36 +0000

In this week’s Carnival of the Insanities:
http://drsanity.blogspot.com/2007/03/carnival-of-insanities_18.html

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By: M&K

M&K — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 18:12:20 +0000

My partner and I (9 years strong) went through a very similar experience when we first moved in together. She was from a fiscally conservative background, and worked incredibly hard for everything she had. She knew how to manage money and did it very well. I, on the other hand, was in debt up to my eyeballs, had let my payments on five maxed out credit cards fall behind, was routinely late on my rent payment, had 50K in student loan debt and was not doing anything to help myself. After a year of dancing gingerly around the subject, we finally had a "come-to-jesus" conversation and laid everything out on the table. We talked seriously and honestly about what it would mean for us if our money habits didn't find a way to co-exist. Four years later, we've found a solution that works. We just keep talking, keep being honest and never, ever let money become something that we fight about. Without being 100% open about it, however, it would have been the cause of us breaking up. Each person HAS to be honest about what money means and where the boundry exists. This is not the area to be shy about.

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By: DivaJean

DivaJean — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 15:21:06 +0000

I lived thru the bad experience of earning my P.H.T. (putting hubby thru) in my early years. My first serious girlfriend out of nursing school went on to work on her bachelor's degree and then her master's degree while I worked full time. Guess who paid the rent, all the incidentals, and the lion's share of everything while she just paid her tuition and books from working part-time? I swear I deserve "galimony"!! But when it finally ended with her, I just wanted out and the quickest way was to just get outta Dodge! The karmic justice-slash punchline to it all is very fitting! In our "market" for nurses, there is little need for "book learnin'" and more experience got me way farther than she has ever gone. So there (nanny nanny boo boo!).

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