Comments on: WWYD: Use a Coupon on a First Date? http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/ We're here, We're queer, and We're not going Shopping without Coupons Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:23:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Personal Finance Interview with John of Queercents.com » http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-53242 Personal Finance Interview with John of Queercents.com » Wed, 18 Jul 2007 00:25:45 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-53242 [...] Assorted transportation passes; driver’s license; cash; debit card; three credit cards (only 2 of which I use, depending on bonus points); random business cards and my own; frequent customer bonus cards; my Entertainment card; several membership cards, cab and bank receipts. Mint’s Note: Along with other top-notch bloggers at Queercents, John writes about sensible personal finance on a regular basis. Recent spiffy articles includes “When Renting is Better Than Buying” and “Using Coupons on a First Date.” You can read more about John from his bio at Queercents.com. If you have a moment, you should definitely consider subscribing to their feed! [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-53242">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] Assorted transportation passes; driver’s license; cash; debit card; three credit cards (only 2 of which I use, depending on bonus points); random business cards and my own; frequent customer bonus cards; my Entertainment card; several membership cards, cab and bank receipts. Mint’s Note: Along with other top-notch bloggers at Queercents, John writes about sensible personal finance on a regular basis. Recent spiffy articles includes “When Renting is Better Than Buying” and “Using Coupons on a First Date.” You can read more about John from his bio at Queercents.com. If you have a moment, you should definitely consider subscribing to their feed! [...]

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]]> By: Tom http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-38799 Tom Thu, 10 May 2007 12:39:16 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-38799 As I've gotten older, I'm much less concerned with vanity and the misconceptions that people may have based on "popular opinion." The simple fact is that by using a coupon on a date, I have more left in my budget to go to a show afterwards, drinks after that and maybe breakfast in the morning ;-). If, instead, I was worried about whether or not someone was going to think I was cheap at dinner and didn't use my coupon, I might blow my budget early in the evening and have to call it a night just when things were starting to really go well with my date. I believe my date should appreciate a certain amount of frugality. As long as I'm not pinching pennies the whole time and making a big deal out of every expenditure, then it shouldn't matter to the date either. What should matter is the experience and the time spent together. One way to use coupons on a date is to treat it as an adventure by choosing coupons to restaurants and places you both haven't been to. Then it's something you are doing together for the first time and the coupon was just a catalyst to help choose that place.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-38799">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> As I’ve gotten older, I’m much less concerned with vanity and the misconceptions that people may have based on “popular opinion.” The simple fact is that by using a coupon on a date, I have more left in my budget to go to a show afterwards, drinks after that and maybe breakfast in the morning ;-) . If, instead, I was worried about whether or not someone was going to think I was cheap at dinner and didn’t use my coupon, I might blow my budget early in the evening and have to call it a night just when things were starting to really go well with my date. I believe my date should appreciate a certain amount of frugality. As long as I’m not pinching pennies the whole time and making a big deal out of every expenditure, then it shouldn’t matter to the date either. What should matter is the experience and the time spent together. One way to use coupons on a date is to treat it as an adventure by choosing coupons to restaurants and places you both haven’t been to. Then it’s something you are doing together for the first time and the coupon was just a catalyst to help choose that place.

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]]> By: Nina http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-31914 Nina Thu, 12 Apr 2007 16:15:07 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-31914 In this week's Carnival of Ethics, Values and Personal Finance: http://www.moneysmartlife.com/carnival-of-ethics-values-personal-finance-7<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-31914">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> In this week’s Carnival of Ethics, Values and Personal Finance:
http://www.moneysmartlife.com/carnival-of-ethics-values-personal-finance-7

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]]> By: Festival of Frugality #68: Clever Picks at Clever Dude Personal Finance & Money http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-29183 Festival of Frugality #68: Clever Picks at Clever Dude Personal Finance & Money Wed, 04 Apr 2007 14:10:35 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-29183 [...] John at Queercents questions using a coupon on the first date. Personally, I think it’s an excellent test of your potential future mate. If they expect you to spend needlessly to romance them, perhaps they’ll expect it when you’re a more permanent couple. Granted, I myself always have fresh flowers for my wife at our home since we got married (I made that promise to her), but I try to get a decent mix for $8 rather than a beautiful bouquet for $20. Romance doesn’t always have to be expensive! [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-29183">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] John at Queercents questions using a coupon on the first date. Personally, I think it’s an excellent test of your potential future mate. If they expect you to spend needlessly to romance them, perhaps they’ll expect it when you’re a more permanent couple. Granted, I myself always have fresh flowers for my wife at our home since we got married (I made that promise to her), but I try to get a decent mix for $8 rather than a beautiful bouquet for $20. Romance doesn’t always have to be expensive! [...]

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]]> By: lylian http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-28925 lylian Tue, 03 Apr 2007 18:17:17 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-28925 I would never use a coupon on a date, and I would also be very put off to see my date do it. Even though I know it doesn't necessarily make the person cheap, the image of that person sitting at a table clipping loads of coupons gives a cheap image. And then I'd wonder if I'm being taken to a certain place because my date thinks I would enjoy it or if it's only because he has a coupon. I think some of this mentality applies to acting like the other person is worth the splurge. When the answer looks like a no, it's off-putting. However, once in a relationship, coupons would make no difference to me. Ultimately, it's about initial impressions and playing the game. It's shallow, but it's safer to abide.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-28925">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> I would never use a coupon on a date, and I would also be very put off to see my date do it. Even though I know it doesn’t necessarily make the person cheap, the image of that person sitting at a table clipping loads of coupons gives a cheap image. And then I’d wonder if I’m being taken to a certain place because my date thinks I would enjoy it or if it’s only because he has a coupon. I think some of this mentality applies to acting like the other person is worth the splurge. When the answer looks like a no, it’s off-putting. However, once in a relationship, coupons would make no difference to me. Ultimately, it’s about initial impressions and playing the game. It’s shallow, but it’s safer to abide.

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]]> By: Mapgirl’s Fiscal Challenge / 68th Festival of Frugality! http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-28806 Mapgirl’s Fiscal Challenge / 68th Festival of Frugality! Tue, 03 Apr 2007 12:04:17 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-28806 [...] John presents WWYD: Use a Coupon on a First Date? posted at Queercents. [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-28806">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] John presents WWYD: Use a Coupon on a First Date? posted at Queercents. [...]

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]]> By: Kat http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-28255 Kat Sun, 01 Apr 2007 17:29:17 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-28255 Maybe not for an 'elegant' first date, but for a 'hey let's go out for pizza and a movie' type date, I'd definately consider it. But somewhere around the point where you should start talking about money - somewhere in that grey area where 'date' becomes 'relationship', then for sure. Don't put off talking about money either - it's a major stress point on any relationship and should be discussed several times on the way to coupledom.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-28255">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Maybe not for an ‘elegant’ first date, but for a ‘hey let’s go out for pizza and a movie’ type date, I’d definately consider it.

But somewhere around the point where you should start talking about money – somewhere in that grey area where ‘date’ becomes ‘relationship’, then for sure. Don’t put off talking about money either – it’s a major stress point on any relationship and should be discussed several times on the way to coupledom.

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]]> By: Gary http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-27733 Gary Fri, 30 Mar 2007 20:49:32 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-27733 First dates are about first impressions. Unless you want to impress your date by demonstrating your use of coupons, don't make a coupon part of the first impression!<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-27733">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> First dates are about first impressions. Unless you want to impress your date by demonstrating your use of coupons, don’t make a coupon part of the first impression!

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]]> By: Andrea http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-27509 Andrea Fri, 30 Mar 2007 00:00:23 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-27509 I can totally see both sides to it. Using a coupon doesn't seem so much stingy, as it seems like you are thinking about something as "uncouth" as money on a date, when you should be so completely smitten that you can think of nothing but the ravishingly beautiful creature sitting across from you. But money is money, so I'd use one if I had an appropriate one. Plus, I'm not the smittenin' type. Also, I'd make sure to still tip the waitstaff as though I was paying full price. BTW, I love those screens in elevators. It makes the long ride to the top so much better. Otherwise, you have to stare blankly at the floor numbers as they light up and be careful not to make eye contact. Elevator etiquette is odd, indeed.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-27509">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> I can totally see both sides to it. Using a coupon doesn’t seem so much stingy, as it seems like you are thinking about something as “uncouth” as money on a date, when you should be so completely smitten that you can think of nothing but the ravishingly beautiful creature sitting across from you. But money is money, so I’d use one if I had an appropriate one. Plus, I’m not the smittenin’ type. Also, I’d make sure to still tip the waitstaff as though I was paying full price.

BTW, I love those screens in elevators. It makes the long ride to the top so much better. Otherwise, you have to stare blankly at the floor numbers as they light up and be careful not to make eye contact. Elevator etiquette is odd, indeed.

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]]> By: Trista http://queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-27473 Trista Thu, 29 Mar 2007 20:34:33 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/03/28/wwyd-use-a-coupon-on-a-first-date/#comment-27473 I would use a coupon on a first date. I don't see how using a coupon would be indicative of stinginess of spirit. And I wouldn't want to be with someone who would equate amount of money spent with spirit or regard or affection; the sooner I figure that out the less time we both waste. I'd rather put more of my money towards a generous tip (on top of making sure that I tip on the pre-coupon price of the meal) than pay full price for over-priced food, or use the money saved with the coupon to buy a treat or gift later in the evening.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-27473">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> I would use a coupon on a first date. I don’t see how using a coupon would be indicative of stinginess of spirit. And I wouldn’t want to be with someone who would equate amount of money spent with spirit or regard or affection; the sooner I figure that out the less time we both waste. I’d rather put more of my money towards a generous tip (on top of making sure that I tip on the pre-coupon price of the meal) than pay full price for over-priced food, or use the money saved with the coupon to buy a treat or gift later in the evening.

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