Comments on: Sleeping With Money: Merging of Families and Very Different Finances http://queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/ We're here, We're queer, and We're not going Shopping without Coupons Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:23:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Money Links For 10-19-2007 http://queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/comment-page-1/#comment-73727 Money Links For 10-19-2007 Fri, 19 Oct 2007 10:36:40 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/#comment-73727 [...] Sleeping With Money: Merging of Families and Very Different Finances by John @ Queer Cents. [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-73727">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] Sleeping With Money: Merging of Families and Very Different Finances by John @ Queer Cents. [...]

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]]> By: John http://queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/comment-page-1/#comment-73622 John Thu, 18 Oct 2007 21:31:41 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/#comment-73622 Thanks Vixen and Billie. Billie- My partner and I are lucky in that we have compatible differences in spending. In an <a href="http://www.queercents.com/2007/08/16/sleeping-with-money-navigating-“you-did-what-with-our-money”-moments/" rel="nofollow">earlier article</a> I mentioned a simple rule of thumb we practice: More money must come in than goes out. We respect each other's independence and trust that we'll each show the same respect for our shared goal, which is to save money for a house. Basically, I have no interest in controlling how he spends, and vice versa. Luckily we're a great match and we each like what the other spends on. Family is a new frontier we haven't explored yet. I'm sure someday I'll have a followup article about it.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-73622">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Thanks Vixen and Billie.

Billie- My partner and I are lucky in that we have compatible differences in spending. In an earlier article I mentioned a simple rule of thumb we practice: More money must come in than goes out. We respect each other’s independence and trust that we’ll each show the same respect for our shared goal, which is to save money for a house. Basically, I have no interest in controlling how he spends, and vice versa. Luckily we’re a great match and we each like what the other spends on.

Family is a new frontier we haven’t explored yet. I’m sure someday I’ll have a followup article about it.

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]]> By: Larry Lennhoff http://queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/comment-page-1/#comment-73618 Larry Lennhoff Thu, 18 Oct 2007 21:18:09 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/#comment-73618 Oh yes. In my case a big stumbling block was how we each responded to emotional crises. When I'm under stress, even if it isn't financial stress, I get cheap. I feel secure knowing that I have money in the bank to deal with whatever crisis is at hand, even if the crisis can't be solved by money. For my partner, spending money is a soothing mechanism to relieve stress. Knowing she has money to spend (which she can only know by actually spending it) staves off her panic, but feeds mine.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-73618">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Oh yes. In my case a big stumbling block was how we each responded to emotional crises. When I’m under stress, even if it isn’t financial stress, I get cheap. I feel secure knowing that I have money in the bank to deal with whatever crisis is at hand, even if the crisis can’t be solved by money.

For my partner, spending money is a soothing mechanism to relieve stress. Knowing she has money to spend (which she can only know by actually spending it) staves off her panic, but feeds mine.

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]]> By: Billie http://queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/comment-page-1/#comment-73615 Billie Thu, 18 Oct 2007 21:07:29 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/#comment-73615 All of the points that you hit on are really great. What are some of the ways that you and your partner have worked out the differences in desires/ habbits for spending?<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-73615">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> All of the points that you hit on are really great. What are some of the ways that you and your partner have worked out the differences in desires/ habbits for spending?

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]]> By: Vixen http://queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/comment-page-1/#comment-73588 Vixen Thu, 18 Oct 2007 19:39:35 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/10/18/sleeping-with-money-merging-of-families-and-very-different-finances/#comment-73588 Lovely article with a great introduction. Definetly made me chuckle.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-73588">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Lovely article with a great introduction. Definetly made me chuckle.

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