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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » Sleeping With Money: Getting Your Money’s Worth With Online Dating

Thu, 27 Mar 2008 19:50:20 +0000

[...] you’ve decided to take the plunge and upgrade to a premium online dating service. The main value of a paid dating site is that you’re meeting people who are financially [...]

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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » Sleeping With Money: Finding Love at Any Expense?

Thu, 24 Jan 2008 17:09:04 +0000

[...] second ones and there’s no way to recoup the losses. An average dinner date in Atlanta never cost me less than $40. I usually try to at least split the bill, but sometimes they pay. When they do, my policy [...]

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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » Queercents Weekly Roundup: Reader Participation Edition

Sat, 08 Dec 2007 06:18:52 +0000

[...] Rehash: Sleeping With Money: How Much Should You Invest on a First Date? I think literally everyone who commented on this post is smarter than me on this topic, so I will [...]

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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » Sleeping with Money: Pony Up or Put Out

Queercents » Blog Archive » Sleeping with Money: Pony Up or Put Out — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 15:08:40 +0000

[...] refer to the Year of Nina as the time period between breaking up with Partner #2 and finally meeting Jeanine. I was in my [...]

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By: Madame X

Madame X — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 21:54:56 +0000

Very fun topic... I know someone (straight) who recently went on a first date that ended up in a car make-out session. When you are in your mid-40s in the suburbs and divorced with kids, I think it's more common than you'd suspect! I can only remember one automotive make-out in my own history, during a torrid college affair. In NYC, it must be VERY rare, though I hear people do make out in taxis... personally I'm not that much of an exhibitionist! Back to money, the afternoon coffee date can be good, I've done those. But I think if you've had a good online rapport, it's worth taking the plunge and going for drinks or even dinner. But then I am one of these people who's hungry all the time, and I'd rather endure a longer, more expensive date than starve!

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By: Carnival of Money Stories #33 - Autumn Beauty | Moolanomy

Carnival of Money Stories #33 - Autumn Beauty | Moolanomy — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 14:03:23 +0000

[...] presents Sleeping With Money: How Much Should You Invest on a First Date? posted at Queercents — Interesting post about how one person deals with first dates with time [...]

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By: Adam

Adam — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 01:46:26 +0000

This is such a fun topic. I remember one day I went on three dates. Didn't cost much because one was a brunch (he paid) then was coffee (that's cheap for a date) and the third was a movie at my place (grab a dvd off the shelf). A spreadsheet is pretty far out though. What about the value of your time in having to track all of that dating? Seriously what is the ROI??

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By: James

James — Sun, 04 Nov 2007 23:34:42 +0000

Great topic. You probably shouldn't spend more than 5 or 10 bucks on a first date. - Why invest the cash if you don't know if you like the person or not?

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By: Nina

Nina — Sat, 03 Nov 2007 14:03:05 +0000

Mrs. Micah: Good to know I wasn't alone in my young adult activities. Vixen: Sounds like you could have used a spreadsheet too! Alec: Like you I learned from experience... go cheap on the first date. John: In my single days, all my dates were met online except for the straight, curious girls I befriended at the gym... more fodder for a future Sleeping With Money post: how to justify the expense of a gym membership. J Dawg: The hike / walk idea is a good suggestion. During a brief man-dating stint I noticed that the motorcycle guys always wanted to take me for a ride... I always thought that was strange because it was pretty hard to get to know someone sitting behind them. Maybe it had more to do with the "you should hold on to me" line that I heard more than once. Re: our friend... well, I guess it was harder for her to speak up. Reese: Excellent point. Here are two posts that touch on this subject a bit: One by Paula about the picking-up-the-check dance and a guest post from Madame X at My Open Wallet.

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By: Reese

Reese — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 22:03:29 +0000

Good story! The nice thing about a first date that costs a bit of money is that you can learn A LOT about the person and how they relate to money (which, as you know, is pretty important). If a person grumbles about the cost or if they get all fussy about who owes what ... you've just learned something pretty vital right there.

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