Comments on: Under Earning Women and the Imposter Syndrome http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/ We're here, We're queer, and We're not going Shopping without Coupons Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:23:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Nina http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-82743 Nina Sun, 18 Nov 2007 13:54:37 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/#comment-82743 In this week's <a href="http://drsanity.blogspot.com/2007/11/carnival-of-insanities-happy.html" rel="nofollow">Carnival of the Insanities</a>.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-82743">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> In this week’s Carnival of the Insanities.

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]]> By: Nina http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-81772 Nina Thu, 15 Nov 2007 13:18:52 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/#comment-81772 Plonkee: Interesting to hear that it's not only the ladies feeling this way. Thanks for sharing. Vixen: Thanks for the anecdote. Sounds like your step-mom is a good role model. Mrs. Micah: There is hope. Negative self-talk is one of those recordings playing constantly in our heads. I try to consciously change what's recorded. Sure, sometimes it feels like mind games, but mind games work. “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” Nicole: Charging what we're worth is so important for women... whether it's our day rates or starting salary. Paula listed some good books on this topic in her post about <a href="http://www.queercents.com/2006/10/27/how-to-ask-for-more-money/" rel="nofollow">How to Ask for More Money</a>!<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-81772">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Plonkee: Interesting to hear that it’s not only the ladies feeling this way. Thanks for sharing.

Vixen: Thanks for the anecdote. Sounds like your step-mom is a good role model.

Mrs. Micah: There is hope. Negative self-talk is one of those recordings playing constantly in our heads. I try to consciously change what’s recorded. Sure, sometimes it feels like mind games, but mind games work. “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.”

Nicole: Charging what we’re worth is so important for women… whether it’s our day rates or starting salary. Paula listed some good books on this topic in her post about How to Ask for More Money!

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]]> By: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome for Financial Success » Mrs. Micah: Finance and Life http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-81590 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome for Financial Success » Mrs. Micah: Finance and Life Thu, 15 Nov 2007 02:45:49 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/#comment-81590 [...] night, Nina at Queercents finally put a name to something I’ve been feeling for years. According to Dr. Valerie Young, I’ve been [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-81590">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] night, Nina at Queercents finally put a name to something I’ve been feeling for years. According to Dr. Valerie Young, I’ve been [...]

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]]> By: Nicole http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-81409 Nicole Wed, 14 Nov 2007 17:23:40 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/#comment-81409 I see myself doing this and even though I feel completely capable at what I do! Be strong charge alot!<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-81409">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> I see myself doing this and even though I feel completely capable at what I do! Be strong charge alot!

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]]> By: Mrs. Micah http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-80988 Mrs. Micah Tue, 13 Nov 2007 02:58:56 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/#comment-80988 P.S. I'm getting better at charging what I'm worth! :)<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-80988">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> P.S. I’m getting better at charging what I’m worth! :)

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]]> By: Mrs. Micah http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-80986 Mrs. Micah Tue, 13 Nov 2007 02:55:29 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/#comment-80986 I feel like an imposter all the time--even in my own fields. I see all the flaws in my work, all the places where I need to grow and think of them as flaws, not opportunities to grow or places where I'm just not perfect yet. *sigh* I'll look into that article and see if there's any hope. ;)<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-80986">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> I feel like an imposter all the time–even in my own fields. I see all the flaws in my work, all the places where I need to grow and think of them as flaws, not opportunities to grow or places where I’m just not perfect yet. *sigh*

I’ll look into that article and see if there’s any hope. ;)

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]]> By: Vixen http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-80937 Vixen Mon, 12 Nov 2007 21:26:12 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/#comment-80937 Let me count the ways in which I love your articles. :-D This actually got forwarded over to my father's new wife who is an interior designer/general contractor. We were just talking how sometimes people are amazed at the prices she charges (over a hundred and twenty an hour). In reality, she says it's the the norm for the industry. I admire that she's strong enough not to feel as though she should charge less, nor does she waiver on her prices.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-80937">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Let me count the ways in which I love your articles. :-D

This actually got forwarded over to my father’s new wife who is an interior designer/general contractor. We were just talking how sometimes people are amazed at the prices she charges (over a hundred and twenty an hour). In reality, she says it’s the the norm for the industry. I admire that she’s strong enough not to feel as though she should charge less, nor does she waiver on her prices.

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]]> By: plonkee http://queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-80926 plonkee Mon, 12 Nov 2007 20:06:02 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2007/11/12/under-earning-women-and-the-imposter-syndrome/#comment-80926 Yes, I feel like an imposter quite a lot. I go through phases of feeling like I am going to get fired, or that work will realise that I'm not who they thought they'd hired. I was brought up to think that I could do any job, but I didn't know any women (and still don't know many) who really did anything other than (compared to their husbands) a less important part-time job. I never think that role models matter to me that much, but maybe I'm mistaken.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-80926">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Yes, I feel like an imposter quite a lot. I go through phases of feeling like I am going to get fired, or that work will realise that I’m not who they thought they’d hired.

I was brought up to think that I could do any job, but I didn’t know any women (and still don’t know many) who really did anything other than (compared to their husbands) a less important part-time job.

I never think that role models matter to me that much, but maybe I’m mistaken.

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