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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » The Mommy Economy: A Review of The Feminine Mistake

Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:27:31 +0000

[...] to one of my sisters that Jeanine and I plan to work full time after the baby is born (we’re adopting a newborn boy and he arrives in December!), she asked, “What’s the point of having children if you’re both [...]

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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » The Cost of Being an Olympic Athlete

Queercents » Blog Archive » The Cost of Being an Olympic Athlete — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 13:01:39 +0000

[...] - as an adult or for the families of younger athletes being groomed for the Olympics. If you think having a baby is expensive well let’s just hope Nina’s family doesn’t have to raise an Olympian in the [...]

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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » DIY vs. Hiring out: When is it worth the time and cost of doing it yourself?

Mon, 23 Jun 2008 14:14:41 +0000

[...] a month ago we had our first home study appointment for the pending adoption and the social worker pointed out the many violations in our garage that would require [...]

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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » How’d You Score that Gig? Let your personality be your guide. With help from Alexandra Levit.

Mon, 21 Apr 2008 13:30:43 +0000

[...] a work-like project we fight. For example, the past two weekends we’ve been putting together our adoption profile – which is a booklet that basically “markets” us to the birthmother. I’ll write a separate [...]

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By: Nina

Nina — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 04:16:56 +0000

Plonkee: Perhaps it is an American thing... but the question is typically asked. Mrs Micah: Thanks! And you offer an interesting perspective... one that I hadn't thought of. calgirlfinance: Appreciate this! Steph: Your story makes me sad to learn that there isn't always happy ending to all of this. I'm so sorry to hear this... Mapgirl: Thanks for the well wishes. We're excited about this next step. Yes, we're going with private domestic adoption... only because it seemed easier (less red-tape) and less expensive than international adoption (Russia for instance). We'll keep you posted on our progress!

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By: mapgirl

mapgirl — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 23:50:01 +0000

Congratulations to you and Jeannine! I'm sorry the IVF route didn't work for you guys. I know that process is difficult and abandoning it as a option was probably sad in its own way, but I am happy you guys still want to have a family. Good luck with adopting. I'm sure you'll find a beautiful child wherever you look. FWIW, I'm Korean and there's a lot Korean adoptees in the US. I've know quite a few. I think people in the US assume that race politics are always big deal because we're frightened of it, but the bigger issue is process and efficiency. IIRC either Honduras or Guatemala had a moratorium at one point on foreign adoptions because it was going unchecked. I think the adoption process for Asian and Eastern European babies has been streamlined and formalized so that it's easier than adopting from other nations where the bureaucracy can be very fickle. My co-worker is half-Korean and adopting a Korean baby with his Filipino-American wife. I asked if they looked at the Philippines as an option and he said it takes 2-3 years whereas Korea takes about a year. Sometimes your deciding factor is who is going to give you an infant vs a toddler or if you want a girl or a boy. (China has/had a lot of girls up for adoption because of the "One Child" policy. You never see Chinese boy adoptees.) I'm not sure where you are at on domestic or international adoption that actually wasn't entirely clear, but it sounds like you are going with private domestic adoption yes?

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By: Family Equality Council Blog » Funds to Form a Family: Adoption process begins. And so does the check writing.

Mon, 31 Mar 2008 14:04:57 +0000

[...] This post is cross-posted at Queercents. [...]

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By: Steph

Steph — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 17:28:54 +0000

The domestic adoption process is a mess. I was approaching it from the other side - I was raped and got pregnant. I decided to adopt my child instead of abort. Dealing with adoption agencies was one of the worst experiences of my entire pregnancy and I can't describe how many times I ended up in tears from it. Going through hundreds of profiles that began to all look the same, reaching out to make an initial contact, only to be treated like an object - I don't know that I'd ever go through the whole process again under any circumstances. Moreover, once I had picked a couple and "bonded" with them, I ended up losing my child only a few hours after birth and never heard from anyone involved in the process again. It was beyond isolating. That was much more of a rant than I meant for it to be. My real suggestion is to consider this process from the perspective of the mother - it's scary and nerve-wracking at an already trying time, and there's a lot she has to go through. Feel free to contact me if you're interested in more specific thoughts, and good luck.

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By: Queercents » Blog Archive » Citibank Freezes Home Equity Lines of Credit

Wed, 26 Mar 2008 14:53:49 +0000

[...] the $55,000 spent trying to make a baby. This year, it will be another $25,000 - $30,000 to adopt a baby. We’ll be living with the old kitchen for [...]

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By: calgirlfinance

calgirlfinance — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 14:34:21 +0000

Congratulations on moving forward with your family and good luck in the process.

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