Comments on: How to Find a Fantabulous Nanny: A Semi-cautionary Tale http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/ We're here, We're queer, and We're not going Shopping without Coupons Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:23:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Jennifer http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-229375 Jennifer Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:19:36 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-229375 thegayestgoth, if I were you, I'd look online to see if there are some local lgbt chat groups. Send a note to the moderator telling them that you're queer and would like to nanny for a queer family--she or he will pass it on. Also post notices at your lgbtq center, local birth centers, etc. Let local doulas and midwives know, too. See how much it costs to run an ad in your local rag. You could even run an ad on a website like this one, or Mombian, or others that seem to attract queer parent traffic. Good luck...<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-229375">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> thegayestgoth, if I were you, I’d look online to see if there are some local lgbt chat groups. Send a note to the moderator telling them that you’re queer and would like to nanny for a queer family–she or he will pass it on. Also post notices at your lgbtq center, local birth centers, etc. Let local doulas and midwives know, too.
See how much it costs to run an ad in your local rag. You could even run an ad on a website like this one, or Mombian, or others that seem to attract queer parent traffic.
Good luck…

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]]> By: thegayestgoth http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-229367 thegayestgoth Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:47:37 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-229367 could someone tell me how i can begin applying for queer nanny jobs? that'd be EVER so helpful!!!<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-229367">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> could someone tell me how i can begin applying for queer nanny jobs? that’d be EVER so helpful!!!

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]]> By: Moorea http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-146995 Moorea Fri, 01 Aug 2008 00:01:05 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-146995 As a nanny of 14 years experience (and now parent coach!), I can say that finding a great nanny is as hard as finding great parents. I often found that parents would lie to me about the job environment and other small things to get me to sign a contract because good childcare is hard to find. This is a wonderful mom's perspective article, Jennifer, though we differ about pay.(I believe in paying more for excellent qualifications and references.) I'm glad you found Mary Poppins at an affordable rate!<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-146995">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> As a nanny of 14 years experience (and now parent coach!), I can say that finding a great nanny is as hard as finding great parents. I often found that parents would lie to me about the job environment and other small things to get me to sign a contract because good childcare is hard to find. This is a wonderful mom’s perspective article, Jennifer, though we differ about pay.(I believe in paying more for excellent qualifications and references.) I’m glad you found Mary Poppins at an affordable rate!

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]]> By: Queercents » Blog Archive » WAHMs, WAHDs, and the Costs and Benefits of Working at Home with Kids: Making the Most of Your Work Time http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-146486 Queercents » Blog Archive » WAHMs, WAHDs, and the Costs and Benefits of Working at Home with Kids: Making the Most of Your Work Time Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:52:40 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-146486 [...] I’ve already written some tips about how to find the ideal (or at least competent and LGBTQ friend.... But once you’ve found her, how do you best utilize your time while she’s minding your kid? It’s a bit trickier than it may seem; it takes a while to adjust to working while your kid and another person are around. Here are some tips that I hope will help WAHMs and WAHDS best utilize their at-home work time: [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-146486">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] I’ve already written some tips about how to find the ideal (or at least competent and LGBTQ friend…. But once you’ve found her, how do you best utilize your time while she’s minding your kid? It’s a bit trickier than it may seem; it takes a while to adjust to working while your kid and another person are around. Here are some tips that I hope will help WAHMs and WAHDS best utilize their at-home work time: [...]

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]]> By: ang http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-119231 ang Thu, 10 Apr 2008 03:48:57 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-119231 Well, mine was an awkward situation. Essentially I didn't have anywhere to live, and some relatives of a friend wanted a nanny. If I had it to do over again (which I can honestly say I never will, though I still love kids and babysitting and such) I'd definitely look into doing it the "right" way.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-119231">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Well, mine was an awkward situation. Essentially I didn’t have anywhere to live, and some relatives of a friend wanted a nanny. If I had it to do over again (which I can honestly say I never will, though I still love kids and babysitting and such) I’d definitely look into doing it the “right” way.

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]]> By: Jennifer http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-119205 Jennifer Thu, 10 Apr 2008 02:02:51 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-119205 Liza, glad to hear you had a good manny experience. Ang, that sounds horrifying! I think ideally the hiring process is a two-way street-the nanny is interviewing the family as much as the family is interviewing the nanny. But sometimes people hide their prejudices at first...I'm so sorry you had such a terrible experience. I wish we had a queer nanny!<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-119205">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Liza, glad to hear you had a good manny experience.
Ang, that sounds horrifying! I think ideally the hiring process is a two-way street-the nanny is interviewing the family as much as the family is interviewing the nanny. But sometimes people hide their prejudices at first…I’m so sorry you had such a terrible experience. I wish we had a queer nanny!

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]]> By: ang http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-119199 ang Thu, 10 Apr 2008 01:06:09 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-119199 I was a nanny last year for five catholic children. As a gay 19 year old, this was NOT the job for me. They hired me before they met me, paid me shit, and instructed me I was NOT to speak at all about who I dated. I was not to have any dates over to the house, though the oldest girl (15) told me that their multiple former nannies had all been permitted to bring home their male partners. It was ridiculous. And they all got praised because they were being so "inclusive" by hiring a queer woman.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-119199">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> I was a nanny last year for five catholic children. As a gay 19 year old, this was NOT the job for me. They hired me before they met me, paid me shit, and instructed me I was NOT to speak at all about who I dated. I was not to have any dates over to the house, though the oldest girl (15) told me that their multiple former nannies had all been permitted to bring home their male partners. It was ridiculous. And they all got praised because they were being so “inclusive” by hiring a queer woman.

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]]> By: Liza http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-119047 Liza Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:44:14 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-119047 Great tips! Because my partner works from home and our house layout is not conducive to both working and kid-wrangling, we never considered a nanny long-term. But we had a great "manny" for the 2 months between when I had to go back to work and when a slot opened up for my son at day care.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-119047">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Great tips!

Because my partner works from home and our house layout is not conducive to both working and kid-wrangling, we never considered a nanny long-term. But we had a great “manny” for the 2 months between when I had to go back to work and when a slot opened up for my son at day care.

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]]> By: Jennifer http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-119016 Jennifer Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:54:16 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-119016 AJ: I used female pronouns because the folks I interviewed were all female, but I'd be fine with a male nanny. Rebecca: Thanks for the comment--I agree that all parties need to be clear about what the expectations are Dana: Thanks for the Mombian shout out!<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-119016">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> AJ: I used female pronouns because the folks I interviewed were all female, but I’d be fine with a male nanny.

Rebecca: Thanks for the comment–I agree that all parties need to be clear about what the expectations are

Dana: Thanks for the Mombian shout out!

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]]> By: Mombian » Blog Archive » Parenting Roundup http://queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/comment-page-1/#comment-118994 Mombian » Blog Archive » Parenting Roundup Wed, 09 Apr 2008 10:09:11 +0000 http://www.queercents.com/2008/04/08/how-to-find-a-fantabulous-nanny-a-semi-cautionary-tale/#comment-118994 [...] Moving on to useful news, Jennifer at Queercents offers tips for How to Find a Fantabulous Nanny. [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-118994">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> [...] Moving on to useful news, Jennifer at Queercents offers tips for How to Find a Fantabulous Nanny. [...]

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