Are you a money person or a sex person?
‘œWhatever you focus on you get more of.’ ‘“ basic idea of The Secret
Below is a LiveJournal post where the author relays a story about how his friend believes that money is easy to get and we all can be rich if we want it.
The entry is called Scarcity and I should preface my thoughts by saying, I’ve never quite clicked with the LiveJournal crowd. The format seems so oddly personal and predates the more mainstream blogging phenomenon that got me started on Blogger way back in 2005.
For some reason, when I link to a LiveJournal post, I always think I’m inappropriately crashing the party. I guess that’s not the case since a Queercents reader sent me the link and indicated I would find the topic of interest and thus, I figured you would too.
The author writes about knowing people who focus on money and how they’re ‘œcontinually on the hunt for’ and ‘œconfident’ about money whereby it has become a more ‘œa fluid quantity for them’ than it has for him. Here he explains:
Deep in my heart, I believe that money comes from paychecks. The idea of money coming from something as nebulous as an independent business or an investment scares the shit out of me. So I don’t look, and even if I do see it I don’t go for it.
Here’s the funny thing: My prophecies assert themselves. I don’t get the big bucks, and because I don’t leap in with both feet, I don’t get rich. Heck, I hate to ask for raises at work because money is scary, you know?
Yet I think of my friend’s confidence. That’s probably one of the more influential talks I’ve had with anyone, because watching her shrug off the whole ‘œcash’ thing as something trivial has clued me in to a few possibilities I hadn’t seen before. That opened my eyes, and I am notably wealthier because of it.
But my fundamental footing is still that money is a scarcity. And I think, to a certain extent, that drives what actually happens. If I believed that money was everywhere, damn, I probably would find more of it hanging down than I ever believed.
Interestingly enough, the one thing I do believe in an abundance of is sex.
Click over if you want to continue reading about why he thinks sex is easy to get. And then come back and tell me if you’re a money person or a sex person or both? Or if not, then what’s holding you back?
Paula has done a Teleclass or two on The Secret Behind The Secret where she has inspired Queercents readers who have:
- Wondered why some things in life don’t work despite all this positive thinking
- Felt like the whole law of attraction thing is just a bunch of ‘œB-S’
- Been stuck in a mentality of lack when it comes to your finances
- Stifled true feelings because you’re afraid to feel them because ‘œwhat you give out is what you get back’ according to the law and you don’t want that directed back at you?
- Felt like you’ve been doing ‘œall the right things’ but still find yourself attracting sour grapes like more debt, bad bosses, or low paying jobs?
So what really holds us back when it comes to sex, money and other things that we want? After all, we are what we attract. Please comment below.
I don’t know that money or sex are the only two choices! 🙂
I tend to think of it like we all have “mental filters” through which we view life. Personally, my brain is always analyzing the political implications of whatever I’m thinking about, for example — those are the opportunities and costs I see first. For others it might be ambition, or money, or sex, or art, or family, or or or or.
I’m definitely neither. I decided by the end of my twenties that living my life by the principle “He who dies with the most toys, wins” would make me a failure for virtually any value of ‘toys’. Instead I switched over to a talmudic saying “Who is rich? One who is content with what they have.” For me, that was a surer path to wealth than any degree of alertness for money or sexual opportunities.
Of late this has been harder to put into practice – for the first time in decades I have wants I can’t fulfill. I’m reducing what I want, which was my traditional method. But I’m also keeping an eye out for opportunities to get the remaining things. I’ve changed jobs based solely on salary for the first time ever, and I’m looking into new-to-me ways of acquiring goods cheaply.
I’m a sex person.
That sounds funny…
But here’s the deal. Money has never been something I have given much thought to. I would like to have enough money to be comfortable but I have no aspirations of wealth nor do I want to put any energy into getting there.
But when it comes to sex? There’s someplace worth putting some energy. If I could have a savings account for intimate encounters that I could dip into when needed, I would be a happy person.
Sex versus money? Easy…
Can’t I be both?
I see myself as more of a people person- but that doesn’t necessarily equal sex (once upon a time it did though 😉 )
Fun comments! It makes sense that most people are a little of both.