Dating on a Budget: A Gift for You
Giving gifts is a great way to express gratitude, break the ice, or just make the other person feel good. People give flowers on almost every occasion: first dates, the day after, birthdays, engagements, anniversaries- I don’t know of any occasion where flowers aren’t appropriate. However, if the receiver has allergies or doesn’t have a green thumb the foliage may reach the garbage heap before it was intended.
According to AboutFlowers.com, the floral industry raked in over 20 billion dollars in retail sales in 2007. That’s a lot of money for an item that may die. For the person who does not appreciate them, what do you buy? For those who simply can not afford them, what is the alternative? What do you give to show your date that you appreciate the time being spent with you? In lieu of flowers, here are three unconventional gift ideas to give on dates:
Gift Cards: Usually, I would say gift cards are for the lazy people who don’t want to think before buying gifts. On the contrary, strategically purchased gift cards over a period of time, could lead to a great date night that is pre-paid all the way.
Collectibles: Think about the conversations you have had with the person. What are they fond of? When dating, it is common to learn all of these quirky details so pay attention. My girlfriend is a ladybug fanatic so anything with the the little red creature could be appropriate. A lesser known fave of hers is Betty Boop. Just think of the cool points I will score with that purchase. I collect miniature tea sets, so even a $1 set from the Dollar Tree would tickle my fancy.
First Meeting Memento: Look back on your first meeting and choose an item significant to that day. Did you meet at the laundromat? Bring fabric softener. Did you meet in the grocery store? Grab a box of their favorite cereal.
The key is to be thoughtful and out of the box. Just don’t buy an alligator if you met at the zoo.
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Tamara: Before Jeanine and I lived together, we dated long distance and only saw each other on weekends. I’d always leave behind a homemade love note. Within a few months she had a nice stack; so I found an antique box at the flea market and mosaicked the top with tile pieces. This keepsake box was the first gift I gave her and it still sits on the dresser in our bedroom. The box filled up that first year… but seven years later, I still leave a love note whenever heading out on a business trip. And nowadays, I leave a mini-note alongside for Sam. (Jeanine thinks that’s really sweet.)
I don’t recall ever buying Jeanine a greeting card from the store. I just can’t bring myself to spend three or four dollars to say I love you when I can essentially make a card (or love note) for pennies; and it has more relevance and meaning than anything I could find at the Hallmark shop.
Oh yeah, and every so often, I still splurge on the flowers!
Ha ha – an alligator. Too funny.
I love flowers, but I will buy them for myself. I actually broke up with a girl because she brought me flowers. Well, I was going to ditch her anyway, but the flowers were really the nail in the coffin.
On my second date with Shannon I brought him a giant gift bag full of Reese’s cups because he had mentioned that they were his favorite candy. I think I spent a total of $6 on the candy at Target. He was so excited to get a bag full of chocolate. I think it’s the best present I’ve ever given.
Nina – I love your love note box idea. That’s so cool!