Flirting without Flirting: Buy Drinks for Everyone
I’ve always found bars socially frustrating. Unlike clubs where you can go dance, there’s not much to do at a bar if you don’t know people and are of a shy disposition.
My friend offered a great, if expensive, way to pick up guys at a bar. If you see some cute guys at a bar, buy a round for everyone. The problem with the direct approach at bars is that of you face rejection and go back to your spot it can look like you’re working your way down the line.
The drink makes you seem generous and gives you something to connect with guys over while not seeming like you’re buying him a drink specifically. Unless I happen to be really low on cash and already well into a binge, I chafe at guys who offer to buy me drinks. I’d rather not feel like I owe anyone. But, if I’m caught in an area effect, then why not enjoy it?
The guys should at least come up to say thanks and then you can let the conversation happen. And if they still won’t talk to you then you’ve spent 5$ to learn they’re an asshole in a relatively painless manner.
One evening my friend managed to pick up ten guys simultaneously.
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Mike writes for Broken Cupid‘”a dating blog for single gay guys where this was originally posted.
In a city such as NYC though, a round will cost alot more than $5 lol. More like for a group of 5, around $50.
Regardless, a very cool idea! Bars can be hard to navigate alone indeed.
Seems like a lot of cash for the chance to maybe get a number. I’ll stick 1-1, deal with rejection, and be thankful I have $45 to try 9 more times. Hopefully, I’ll be ahead in the log run. 🙂
Mike: This is an excellent idea… I was always shy in my bar-going days, but luring women with the “area effect” would have been a priceless tactic.